Thursday, October 6, 2011


 Narcissus was a handsome Greek youth who had never seen his reflection, but because of a prediction by an Oracle, looked in a pool of water and saw his reflection for the first time. The nymph Echo--who had been punished by Hera for gossiping and cursed to forever have the last word—had seen Narcissus walking through the forest and wanted to talk to him, but, because of her curse, she wasn't able to speak first. As Narcissus was walking along, he got thirsty and stopped to take a drink; it was then he saw his reflection for the first time, and, not knowing any better, started talking to it. Echo, who had been following him, then started repeating the last thing he said back. Not knowing about reflections, Narcissus thought his reflection was speaking to him. Unable to consummate his love, Narcissus pined away at the pool and changed into the flower that bears his name, the narcissus.
( A Greek Myth)

P.S :I am not referring to the disorder but to the meaning of the word in general
Narcissism ..this word may be and well is used in negative context.But what remains is that Is Being Selfish that bad?
We are alive.Its our Life then why care for others
Selfishness Or Egoism every where is used in portraying  the Person's worst characteristics since time immemorial.
I have been several time been accused of siding with this line of thought but To my small unintellectual mind it doesnot makes sense.
As to Accepting the normal thinking ,Well generally I never go along by what others have to say or other's opinion.
I am a bit or very much into this school of thought that things which appear sensible to me my mind is the thing I believe in whether My actions or My behavior .
They are not dependent on Society's norm
Its all in My Mind and I tend to stick to it.
Well Am again sidetracking from my topic that of Narcissism..Here I would like to quote the definition from Wikipedia Narcissism is the personality trait of egotism denoting vanityconceit, or simple selfishness. Applied to a social group, it is sometimes used to denote elitism or an indifference to the plight of others.
 Theres a Lot More to it..But What Am concerned is that the definition itself contains few of my favorite words..such as Elitism ...Well Whats wrong in being "Elite".!!!
And why the hell be I bothered to the plight of the others.I am an honest citizen.I pay my taxes.I hard earn my salary and am a valuable member of Society.
My only concern is "I"...
Well I dont believe in idea of collective society as I strongly believe its hindrance to ones own mental and moral developments.Growth as an individual will be hampered and Yes!! Ofcourse How can I forget my favorite lines from My favorite books,my bible  the Atlas Shrugged
"I swear by my life and my love of it that I will never live for the sake of another man, nor ask another man to live for mine."
Anyway...Ayn Rand 's work are complete masterpiece and no need to say reflects the most correct and apt judgments of Human nature.
I was reading Freud then I came across the three terms which he has used mostly ID,EGO,SUPEREGO.
In reference to them he has detailed his further analysis.
Again the thoughts expressed are completely in sync with the general most common trait of human nature.
Sigmund Freud's earlier work also include a clinical description of Narcissism in his book 'An introduction to Narcissism' which one can say is also a milestone in his career.I have not read that book but Going by Sigmund Freud's approach I can well say that the Psycho Analysis on Narcissism would be just as wonderful as his other books have been..My favorites being Civilization and Its Discontent and the Interpretation of Dreams.
Anyway All about Authors and their line of thought But In more simple language...I think that Healthy Narcissism is not negative and Ego is the real realization of one's own true self.
One should be well aware of what he is and where his stands lie.The only Moral purpose of one's life is attainment of Happiness which is also very rare.
We tend to be influenced by external temperaments resulting in loosing one's own core values and one's own real purpose
Self-Realization is the most integral part and Should be done in order to live the life..
In order to be truly Alive that is..


  1. Sonal! you look so pretty and lovely in that photo at the suits you really well...I love this post of yours.. I echo most of the things you say in this ...Would love to read Fredu someday..his works seems to have lot of different shades..:)

    Can i give one comment about the layout of the blog..this wine glass gets in the way when I am reading your posts..can you maybe lighten the shade or change the placement? just a thought ...

  2. Thanks a Lot..Yeah Freud is a class.Do read as and When U get time..Just edited the Design ,Wineglass is gone :P

  3. Hey Sovina,Just saw your name tagged in one of the FB posts by Ritwika Bansal .I assume you are the same Sovina Gehlot ! anyway Send you the FB request :)