Wednesday, September 28, 2011

Partner-Life Partner

“A man's sexual choice is the result and the sum of his fundamental convictions.... He will always be attracted to the woman who reflects his deepest vision of himself, the woman whose surrender permits him to experience a sense of self-esteem. The man who is proudly certain of his own value, will want the highest type of woman he can find, the woman he admires, the strongest, the hardest to conquer--because only the possession of a heroine will give him the sense of an achievement.” 
― Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged
Well its not only true for Bedmates but applicable also with respect to friends we have.A man is judged by the Company he keeps,So True.Friends are the only relation which We human are not imposed by virtue of birth unlike other relations.Its that whatever friends he/she has is by choice not by any accident or by fate!
Even when it comes to choosing Partners its Actually worth pondering over.I mean the kind of person one chooses to spend the entire life.In India the concept is a bit different,Most of us end up going for Arranged match..Having a certain checklist and the requirement gets fulfilled eventually.
For a girl like me say 25year old B.Tech graduate, a standard checklist would include a decent software engineer B.e/B.Tech guy preferably from same hometown and yes theres a criteria of education too...preferably IIT/IIM/IIIT's and NIT's ..Funny and nothing new,not to forget same caste and same family background a bit of this and a bit of that...
That explains the popularity of various Matrimonial sites too!
Well I am not bragging that I am a different kind altogether that I donot believe in Traditions and all but yes a thing which I am quite sure is that Never ever in My Life I would just toss my life simply to somebody who matches the pre-requisites standards set by my Parents.
Its not that I donot love them,It neither that I donot have any attachment with my family ,Its simply that I refuse to let a meeting of 10minutes decide that He is the one for me...I still believe in my dreams and moreover a Love which is eternal..A love which wont be just a mere feeling  but assertion of one's value being reflected in others thought! that perfect Person out there for me who reflects the same sentiments/echoes back the same Morals and yeah a very much part of "I" brigade,an objective and a rational mind in search for the same!
Anyway Infact it becomes all the easy when I see different people's partners choice,Being in HR has taught me few things and that includes a sharp insight into people's behavior and aptitude.It helps while interviewing the candidates and Even when it comes to friends and Volunteering or conducting workshops It makes me reach out to maximum number of people making me a popular as a friend and as a colleague !

Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Butterfly Effect-A Small difference

The butterfly effect is a metaphor that encapsulates the concept of sensitive dependence on initial conditions in chaos theory; namely a small change at one place in a complex system can have large effects elsewhere.Heres the wiki link
Why am I talking about this effect is that a small act can go a long way in changing/shaping somebody else life...In a recent conversation with one of  my friend on the relative merits of social work,Volunteering during Weekends and Conducting workshops for the under privileged children...What we overlooked  was that atleast something is always better than nothing..If all of us sit back home thinking there is enough corruption,more than enough poverty and a lot of below the poverty people crowding our nearby societies...Infact the place where I live in Andheri-Lokhandwala there is a whole slum of people -labour class mostly stinks yes badly ,the hygiene around that place leaves a great question to be answered..the litter and the overflowing dustbins speaks Volume..No offence to any Municipal corporations but then the truth is ugly..Its not just Mumbai...Even when I was in gurgaon...just next to the place where I used to reside there was small community of labour class living..the urchins playing on street naked Well yeah I agree this is the picture of India potrayed..Cows on street,naked children playing gulli-cricket and lots of cow dungs scattered over road...True to an extent and real as well..Most of will tend to disagree,Given we are a country of IITs+IIM's crowd,a country which boasts of number of good genius brains,country which is deemed a bank to worlds best talents....
yes a Country we all are proud..I am a part of working class in a country with no special Mother Teresa Talent..Its just that something really irks me and which motivates me to interact with people around and atleast try to make a difference to some ...The girls I met who so much wanted to study but couldnot,the boys with dreams in their eyes but no resources ...That guy who is studying in B.Com part 1 and who sell eggs in night to support his ailing father and family of four...Trying to search for a part time job in Mumbai at times becomes difficult though we have so many philanthropists all around..but what my point is that charity wont help in long run..
An attitude to help and a Acceptance of the people around..Respect to the people around who are not born and brought up as privileged as we are is of utmost importance.

Why I thought of butterfly effect when discussing about impact of Social work because its what stimulates an ongoing reaction prevailing in our community ..a small action initiated at a small place can easily be transformed to action for greater good..
Now I am a believer in objectivity..I believe in being rational and realist hence I wo0ulnt boast that how I sacrifice my precious hours working for under privileged but yes giving a quality time and a quality contribution is something I have been regularly doing irrespective of the fact that yes there are times when patience is being tested but then I remeber that spider and King Scott's story -The famous how the spider didnt stop climbing despite of failing multiple times...Well fail and pass what exactly is success or failure Its again relative..To me At the end of the day Self Satisfaction matters....Yes told you so am Selfis,and everything I do I do it for myself :)
Thats me with children at Prerna

Sunday, September 4, 2011

Glam Quotient :Saree

Whats your Glam Quotient ?
We mention so much of this phrase in our day to day  discussion while discussing a function/event or now even Sports(the likes of IPL) .
But have we ever wondered whats our glam quotient..I mean Am I feminine enough to enthrall enough of the audience the audience refers to the crowd generally any party or even a function at home...I mean I was kind of wondering Do people stop to look at me and Do girls stare at me enviously when I enter the room..?
Has it ever happened that somewhere a cute looking guy's face has lit all because I had smiled at him...........
Or Has it ever Ever happened that somebody has got so mesmerized by my eyes that he just couldnot look away !
Things like these happen to every girl ,We Indian girls in general are pretty endowed with enough of sensuality and femininity ,Our Traditional Saree can give competition to any short dresses.Even without a glimpse of cleavage We are capable of turning on a guy ,and yeah its not an exaggeration Its the Truth and this Truth is beautiful .
Like our dusky skinned bollywood Divas....

I have fettish for Sarees ,they were and they still remain the ultimate choice .The beauty of India is that we are so different yet so smilar..Cultural Diversity for instance Still the theme remains the same..Even in Sarees .....Our Glam Quotient lies in our Covered Attire...Our Traditional approach towards the dressing and yes Not to Forget  Multiple ways of draping the same Saree..the same 7meters

If we go far east There is a unique way If we Venture a Little West yet another  style of Draping

Well What I felt like Writing is that Saree is our Glam Quotient ,Its the only dress which can make a girl look Complete and Sensual ,All feminine and yeah Ready to Rock and turn the heads ,and the Perfect attire which oozes Confidence plus Makes a Statement...........I have heard from friends that I look awesome in Saree not that I deny but yes Given a chance I would prefer wearing Saree everywhere .........
Thats me :)