Monday, October 24, 2011

Love ! Sonal and Rahul

Sonal

Bright sunny morning. Alarm buzzing.
Not again. Another Monday back to work.
Getting ready eating nothing she always gets late however early she tries to wake up.
Six months of a boring routine job in a multinational firm
She hated that job,yet somehow she coped
She always did manage to pull through. That was her.
Independent yet too emotional not that she cries at the drop of hanky.
But then she really is somewhat reactive well passionate about each and every stuff,more than ready to give a helping hand and a very dependable person.
Sometimes due to this habit of hers she has even worked overtime without any monetary benefits.
That is the corporate world where friendship/ people don’t count .it took her Six months to realize this.

Things have started being normal otherwise her initial months had been a night mare
Though she managed to live alone first time separated by her family, well thrown out.
She had to cut her ties off her parents. Yeah they resented her job and here she was but then.
She never did look back
This was what she had always wanted...and much more eventually she's been working quite hard .Struggling to meet her end's meet!

Rahul-

Magazine publisher Rahul lived life in the fast lane, slowing down only to savor the finer things in life, like good Scotch and hot women. 
Today,Monday He would be taking over this new assignment that is relocating to India. He was being called from New York where he has his base as his father had just suffered another stroke.
Rahul preferred States to India but this time he simply can’t refuse and one of the good reason was but obvious few months of space from Olivia his fiancée.
Olivia was his fiancée as well as his business partner in the Magazine which he had started on his own.
Though like a normal son he was expected to step into the shoes of his father but Rahul was always a rebel.
Rahul’s car stopped at the crossing and just like a flash of lightning he saw her...
Sonal was sitting by the window .She always preferred  looking outside just skimming the whole city as her Volvo passed the Mumbai Streets lost in her own world, headphone plugged to her ears, Music thrumming down her veins


Her gaze rose, taking in the impeccable Italian suit, the crisp white shirt, the extravagantly wide shoulders, the smooth, tan skin…and finally stared up into Rahul’s cool gaze.
There was certainly nothing appealing in his eyes now!
Sonal and Rahul just kept staring at each other. Signal went green and car drove away in a lightning speed.
Now what was that!!
Sonal felt a jolt of electric spark that stranger’s gaze has just ignited
It was not like her but still His eyes had that look it was just so unforgettable
She would never forget this encounter!!
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His eyes has been etched in her heart..


With Love.......

I write this to you with Love........
To Whomsoever It may Concern-Yeah I donot know your Name.You Exist as I exist,You are somehwere Down there Too Wondering the Same thing as I end up wondering each time Festivals are around the corner,No Not Really I end up thinking about you when It rains... When I see Moon shining brightly and the clouds playing hide and seek ...When I miss being with someone,When I am Me...I miss cuddling next to you...Like I missed you Last Night When All of a sudden I was woken up by a bad Nightmare,I was crying and you were Not there to wipe My tears,I know you didnot know.How would you..We donot even know each other..
Its just that I know You....
Its just that Deep in My heart theres a Believe and this Believe makes me Write this Crazy post ........
Anyway Am actually Weird ,Given I have got this Incomplete Story to Complete...............Alishaa-Thats What I have Decided to Name Her,and Sid-Siddharth -Somethings Going on Between them and They Even Donot Know----------So Here I am posting the Short story Series--------

Thursday, October 20, 2011

Weddings!


Every Now and then I find my Inbox filled with Wedding Invitees..My Facebook Home page filled with updates Like "Countdown Begins..." or Now " He /She is engaged/Married to ..." Well to cut  it Short,Several people I know Are getting hitched ,are either engaged or going to be...Not that I am Complaining,I am Perfectly happy basking in the glory of my single status and yeah Kind of enjoying all the Attentions :P
Anyway Though am single and not even willing to Mingle ;) Given I am a piscean So kind of dreamer and over imaginative,I can't help think/dream about my near future Wedding ..that
near future might be 5 light years away
Not that I am worried..I still believe Once in awhile, Right in the middle of an ordinary life, Love gives us a fairy tale.and May be Someday I too will have that Love 

As of Now Its just a vague hazy sketch with me that what if I get married,Though I want to 

get married in a typical traditional Indian way but then I cannot help but dream of a  typical 

Bahamas/Beach Wedding..That awe-inspiring exquisiteness, striking lavishness and romantic charm 
Somewhere deep in my heart I want to be wedded like a Polynesian Princess or Somewhere like the Pantheon in Rome or floating across above the canals of Venice or  over the water bungalows hovering above outrageously beautiful coral reefs
making my special day magical. 

Well Well....Its just a stupid Fancy of mine...As Right Now am reading a mystery Novel set in Venice So blame it on the Book :P



But yeah Anyday Nothing Like an Indian Wedding with red Lehenga ,Heavy gold Jewellery and a Typical Baraat :)


"Marriage is the golden ring in a chain whose
beginning is a glance and whose ending is Eternity."

Thursday, October 6, 2011

Narcissism


 Narcissus was a handsome Greek youth who had never seen his reflection, but because of a prediction by an Oracle, looked in a pool of water and saw his reflection for the first time. The nymph Echo--who had been punished by Hera for gossiping and cursed to forever have the last word—had seen Narcissus walking through the forest and wanted to talk to him, but, because of her curse, she wasn't able to speak first. As Narcissus was walking along, he got thirsty and stopped to take a drink; it was then he saw his reflection for the first time, and, not knowing any better, started talking to it. Echo, who had been following him, then started repeating the last thing he said back. Not knowing about reflections, Narcissus thought his reflection was speaking to him. Unable to consummate his love, Narcissus pined away at the pool and changed into the flower that bears his name, the narcissus.
( A Greek Myth)

P.S :I am not referring to the disorder but to the meaning of the word in general
Narcissism ..this word may be and well is used in negative context.But what remains is that Is Being Selfish that bad?
We are alive.Its our Life then why care for others
Selfishness Or Egoism every where is used in portraying  the Person's worst characteristics since time immemorial.
I have been several time been accused of siding with this line of thought but To my small unintellectual mind it doesnot makes sense.
As to Accepting the normal thinking ,Well generally I never go along by what others have to say or other's opinion.
I am a bit or very much into this school of thought that things which appear sensible to me my mind is the thing I believe in whether My actions or My behavior .
They are not dependent on Society's norm
Its all in My Mind and I tend to stick to it.
Well Am again sidetracking from my topic that of Narcissism..Here I would like to quote the definition from Wikipedia Narcissism is the personality trait of egotism denoting vanity, conceit, or simple selfishness. Applied to a social group, it is sometimes used to denote elitism or an indifference to the plight of others.
 Theres a Lot More to it..But What Am concerned is that the definition itself contains few of my favorite words..such as Elitism ...Well Whats wrong in being "Elite".!!!
And why the hell be I bothered to the plight of the others.I am an honest citizen.I pay my taxes.I hard earn my salary and am a valuable member of Society.
My only concern is "I"...
Well I dont believe in idea of collective society as I strongly believe its hindrance to ones own mental and moral developments.Growth as an individual will be hampered and Yes!! Ofcourse How can I forget my favorite lines from My favorite books,my bible  the Atlas Shrugged
"I swear by my life and my love of it that I will never live for the sake of another man, nor ask another man to live for mine."
Anyway...Ayn Rand 's work are complete masterpiece and no need to say reflects the most correct and apt judgments of Human nature.
I was reading Freud then I came across the three terms which he has used mostly ID,EGO,SUPEREGO.
In reference to them he has detailed his further analysis.
Again the thoughts expressed are completely in sync with the general most common trait of human nature.
Sigmund Freud's earlier work also include a clinical description of Narcissism in his book 'An introduction to Narcissism' which one can say is also a milestone in his career.I have not read that book but Going by Sigmund Freud's approach I can well say that the Psycho Analysis on Narcissism would be just as wonderful as his other books have been..My favorites being Civilization and Its Discontent and the Interpretation of Dreams.
Anyway All about Authors and their line of thought But In more simple language...I think that Healthy Narcissism is not negative and Ego is the real realization of one's own true self.
One should be well aware of what he is and where his stands lie.The only Moral purpose of one's life is attainment of Happiness which is also very rare.
We tend to be influenced by external temperaments resulting in loosing one's own core values and one's own real purpose
Self-Realization is the most integral part and Should be done in order to live the life..
In order to be truly Alive that is..

Only Mine :*


A Love like ours
Hard to find,Difficult to Define…
A feeling so real ,so tender …..So Sublime…
Crusade against the Time…
It’s a sin and a crime…
But yet the Deliriousness…like the music in the air that of a wind chime…
A Love like ours
Hard to find,Difficult to Define…
In its raw state No need to refine..
Emotions unrestricted..Needless to Confine….
Intoxicating and Delicious Tastes Like a Vintage Wine….
Your smile Brightens My day..yes Honey you are My SunShine…
Going Against All the Norms …All I can Say that you are all I have…You are Only Mine

Wednesday, September 28, 2011

Partner-Life Partner


“A man's sexual choice is the result and the sum of his fundamental convictions.... He will always be attracted to the woman who reflects his deepest vision of himself, the woman whose surrender permits him to experience a sense of self-esteem. The man who is proudly certain of his own value, will want the highest type of woman he can find, the woman he admires, the strongest, the hardest to conquer--because only the possession of a heroine will give him the sense of an achievement.” 
― Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged
Well its not only true for Bedmates but applicable also with respect to friends we have.A man is judged by the Company he keeps,So True.Friends are the only relation which We human are not imposed by virtue of birth unlike other relations.Its that whatever friends he/she has is by choice not by any accident or by fate!
Even when it comes to choosing Partners its Actually worth pondering over.I mean the kind of person one chooses to spend the entire life.In India the concept is a bit different,Most of us end up going for Arranged match..Having a certain checklist and the requirement gets fulfilled eventually.
For a girl like me say 25year old B.Tech graduate, a standard checklist would include a decent software engineer B.e/B.Tech guy preferably from same hometown and yes theres a criteria of education too...preferably IIT/IIM/IIIT's and NIT's ..Funny and nothing new,not to forget same caste and same family background a bit of this and a bit of that...
That explains the popularity of various Matrimonial sites too!
Well I am not bragging that I am a different kind altogether that I donot believe in Traditions and all but yes a thing which I am quite sure is that Never ever in My Life I would just toss my life simply to somebody who matches the pre-requisites standards set by my Parents.
Its not that I donot love them,It neither that I donot have any attachment with my family ,Its simply that I refuse to let a meeting of 10minutes decide that He is the one for me...I still believe in my dreams and moreover a Love which is eternal..A love which wont be just a mere feeling  but assertion of one's value being reflected in others thought! that perfect Person out there for me who reflects the same sentiments/echoes back the same Morals and yeah a very much part of "I" brigade,an objective and a rational mind in search for the same!
Anyway Infact it becomes all the easy when I see different people's partners choice,Being in HR has taught me few things and that includes a sharp insight into people's behavior and aptitude.It helps while interviewing the candidates and Even when it comes to friends and Volunteering or conducting workshops It makes me reach out to maximum number of people making me a popular as a friend and as a colleague !

Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Butterfly Effect-A Small difference


The butterfly effect is a metaphor that encapsulates the concept of sensitive dependence on initial conditions in chaos theory; namely a small change at one place in a complex system can have large effects elsewhere.Heres the wiki link http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Butterfly_effect
Why am I talking about this effect is that a small act can go a long way in changing/shaping somebody else life...In a recent conversation with one of  my friend on the relative merits of social work,Volunteering during Weekends and Conducting workshops for the under privileged children...What we overlooked  was that atleast something is always better than nothing..If all of us sit back home thinking there is enough corruption,more than enough poverty and a lot of below the poverty people crowding our nearby societies...Infact the place where I live in Andheri-Lokhandwala there is a whole slum of people -labour class mostly ..it stinks yes badly ,the hygiene around that place leaves a great question to be answered..the litter and the overflowing dustbins speaks Volume..No offence to any Municipal corporations but then the truth is ugly..Its not just Mumbai...Even when I was in gurgaon...just next to the place where I used to reside there was small community of labour class living..the urchins playing on street naked Well yeah I agree this is the picture of India potrayed..Cows on street,naked children playing gulli-cricket and lots of cow dungs scattered over road...True to an extent and real as well..Most of will tend to disagree,Given we are a country of IITs+IIM's crowd,a country which boasts of number of good genius brains,country which is deemed a bank to worlds best talents....
yes a Country we all are proud..I am a part of working class in a country with no special Mother Teresa Talent..Its just that something really irks me and which motivates me to interact with people around and atleast try to make a difference to some ...The girls I met who so much wanted to study but couldnot,the boys with dreams in their eyes but no resources ...That guy who is studying in B.Com part 1 and who sell eggs in night to support his ailing father and family of four...Trying to search for a part time job in Mumbai at times becomes difficult though we have so many philanthropists all around..but what my point is that charity wont help in long run..
An attitude to help and a Acceptance of the people around..Respect to the people around who are not born and brought up as privileged as we are is of utmost importance.

Why I thought of butterfly effect when discussing about impact of Social work because its what stimulates an ongoing reaction prevailing in our community ..a small action initiated at a small place can easily be transformed to action for greater good..
Now I am a believer in objectivity..I believe in being rational and realist hence I wo0ulnt boast that how I sacrifice my precious hours working for under privileged but yes giving a quality time and a quality contribution is something I have been regularly doing irrespective of the fact that yes there are times when patience is being tested but then I remeber that spider and King Scott's story -The famous how the spider didnt stop climbing despite of failing multiple times...Well fail and pass what exactly is success or failure Its again relative..To me At the end of the day Self Satisfaction matters....Yes told you so am Selfis,and everything I do I do it for myself :)
Thats me with children at Prerna